Hi again Jeff, my mom died in 2014, and then 11 years later my dad died. I got over my mom's death years ago, and it took me a few months to get over my dad's death. I was shocked both times. But because i am a Theravada Buddhism believer, i used its teachings to come to terms with it. Happiness therefore returned to my life. There are times I have remembered the last time I saw him alive, and then later dead -- just like moments before when a song reminded me of him, and then i returned to this FOD forum to see if any reply from you or anyone -- which bring unhappiness, but i spring back to being okay with the mind-set i have based on the teachings of Buddhism and my own wisdom. And also according to Theravada Buddhism, because of reincarnation, i (you, everyone) has also in past lives, and will also in future lives, experience this death of parent(s)/loved one(s) again and again. Until we individually escape from this cycle of repeated reincarnation, by attaining Nibbana. Now, you will be the first non-family member i will reveal this to: i am the poster 'Seeker2025' at the famous online Theravada Buddhism forum 'Dhamma Wheel' -- google for it: dhamma wheel -- that in the discussion thread i started, titled 'What is anatta?' i talk about my dad's death and how i got over his death (and previously, my mom's death). You could even probably find it quickly by just googling: what is anatta seeker2025 From, Ai